Ronald Reagan once said, "What other people think of me is none of my business."
If you're not in a good mental place right now, I know what you probably think of that quote. You probably think that he's full of shit, that nobody feels that way.
If you ARE in a good mental place, you're smiling and nodding :)
Are you the type of person who has to call your friends to find out what they're wearing tonight? Or are you the one your friends call?
Are you the type of person who has no problem ordering a water and a salad while your friends are ordering cocktails and burgers, and just smiling and laughing when they deride you for it? Or are you the one trying to bring your healthy friend down to your level by chiding them that they should "let loose once in awhile" that it's "just one drink"?
Are you a leader, or a follower? Do you raise your fellow humans up, or bring them down?
Do you mind your own business, or everyone else's?
I've often found in my life that unhappy people are obsessed with what the rest of us are doing; mainly because it takes the focus off of themselves. They don't want to sit and consider how they're making themselves miserable, so they pick other people apart. I've found that, when we're healthy, and paying attention to taking care of ourselves, we are too busy to spare a thought for what others are doing for THEMselves...and it never occurs to us to consider what they think of us, let alone to care about it!
I'm here to tell you that what you all think of me is none of my business, and I'm not the slightest bit interested in hearing it. I laugh out loud when people begin or end a sentence to me with, "No offense." That's so much more a statement about THEM than it is about ME; it implies that they would be offended by what they're about to say, so they think I would be, too. I'm nearly impossible to offend; because I really don't care what anyone else thinks. I walk my truth every day, I do myself proud, and I sleep pretty damn well at night. I demand a lot of myself mentally, physically, emotionally, socially, parentally...I've got pretty high standards. As Kent Nerburn said, “It is not our task to judge the worthiness of our path; it is our task to walk our path with worthiness.” I strive to be worthy of the life force within me every day; of the body I'm blessed with, the mind I'm gifted with, the child I'm entrusted with. Every little decision every day begins and ends with whether or not the choice I'm about to make is worthy of the path I'm walking. Is that burger worthy of my body, or is that salad? Is that movie worthy of my mind, or is that book? Is using a videogame babysitter worthy of my child's time, or is a trip to the zoo hand-in-hand with me? I am the captain of my soul, I steer my own course through this life. How could anything anyone might say or think about me have any consequence against my knowledge of my heart's own truth, my soul's own worth?
Friends, if your heart resonates the tone I sing here, mine sings for yours, as well! But if you know not that of which I speak, I beseech you to cease looking without, and look within. You are failing to walk your own truth, and how can you point the way to others, when you don't know where you're going, yourself?
Today, Mind Your Own Business. And what others think of you is NOT your business. Know your heart's own truth, and walk it. Walk your path with worthiness. Do yourselves proud; do your best, forget the rest! With every decision you make, ask yourself if it's worthy of who you are. And if someone else's choices catch your eye, and you find yourself wanting to criticize, remember to turn that eye inward, and ask yourself what it is that YOUR heart is missing, that makes you look elsewhere for something to criticize.
Don't Think, about others today. Just Go, on your own path!
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